Ishwari Sollohub, LPCC
Santa Fe and Los Alamos, New Mexico
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The photos below relate to Rocks and Roses
Above: Bob and Ishwari at Denver Botanical Gardens
Above: Bob, summer 2003
Above: Bob at campaign table, 2003, Bob and Ishwari at Christmas party, 2003
Above: January 30, 2004, just after Bob's passing
Above: Bob, Spirit Warrior
Above: Bob's Celebration
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(To see reader reviews, scroll down to REVIEWS)
"… I rush to where Bob has fallen on the dance floor and drop to my knees. His blue eyes are wide open and he seems to be staring at the ceiling, but I can tell he isn’t seeing.
His hands clutch his chest. The driving beat of the music presses in on me: a wild and chaotic percussion of cymbals and bells… whistling… a woman’s throaty voice, singing the words, “Love and Happiness,” loud and fast, over and over and over.
I am confused. A huge lump rises in my throat and my heart starts racing. Thoughts course through my mind, and I try to push them away: “His heart… God, I hope it’s not his heart.”
From the book cover:
"An intimate memoir, Rocks and Roses recounts a life-altering inner journey. The author's courageous and unwavering commitment to "showing up, saying yes, and telling the truth" has produced a touching and powerful work that is likely to surprise and move the reader. Catapulting from the heights of love into the searing shock of sudden and unexpected loss, the author navigates the dizzying, shattering roller-coaster of grief, embracing the unknown maze of surrender, and opening to the gift of new life and spiritual transformation. From transformation she moves onward, discovering new ground, continuing growth and a new-found appreciation of the unfolding mystery and challenges of life."
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REVIEWS, Rocks and Roses
--by M.W. (Santa Fe, NM)
April 3, 2016
"Just finished your book - what a gift to the world ... Something about surviving a loss like that gives me hope that when I am in that place I too will survive. Thank you for the gift."
--by K.T. (Bellevue, Washington)
December 4, 2015
"I have read quite a few books on grief and loss, but never one quite like Rocks and Roses. I have great respect for Joan Didion, especially her books about the deaths of her husband and daughter. In one respect these Didion works are unvarnished, but in another they carry the mark of being written; you can see the mark and craft of the writer. …your book has a feeling of a story just set down as it happened. …moment to moment …just telling what it was like to be there. This gives it authenticity.
…I felt drawn in compulsively. …I got a vicarious thrill from reading your story. Oh, that’s what it might be like, I would say to myself. You have quite a different way of writing about intimacy. …doesn’t seem staged. You provide no salacious details; feelings overshadow the physical details.
…another aspect that makes (your book) singular: …a group’s sharing in the public, unexpected death of one of its members, as extraordinary, uplifting, and positive. Your account of repeatedly being lifted by the support of others who were there …makes me wonder how I would feel in the same circumstances. …I am struck by your encounters with people who were not (present), but heard about (the event) and were moved by it. I suspect that this deepened your grieving process, almost as if you were a high priestess charged with tending a sacred relic. The reader gets a chance to glimpse an open account of your grieving practices - even some that are highly extraordinary."
Thank you so much, K.T. and M. W., for your generous and insightful reviews. I am honored to hear about your experiences of reading my story. - Ishwari Sollohub